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This site is a little project that lets me make fun of some things and sense of others. I use it to think a little more relationally without resorting to doing actual math.Subscribe
This site is a little project that lets me make fun of some things and sense of others. I use it to think a little more relationally without resorting to doing actual math.
X axis could be quite a few things, no?
1) I don’t see the point in introducing gender, imho, replacing “guy” and “woman” by “a person” and “the others” would work just as well.
2) according to this graph, what does the accusory title of this graph reveal on its author ?
You don’t see the point of introducing gender because you are male, and therefore privileged with regard to gender, and you have apparently made no effort whatsoever to understand the world from the point of view of those who do not share your privileges. Instead of just spouting off that you don’t see the point, why don’t you ask what the reason is? You could learn about the way in which women who feel creeped out are shamed for being bitches, about the social entitlement that make men feel they are owed female attention, and when they don’t get it some respond with harassment and violence (and there’s no way to tell ahead of time who will), and that male-bonding includes building up stereotypes of women being mean, shallow, and unreasonable for turning down creepy guys which further allows men to reinforce their resentment of women.
Another great sign of privilege is whining that accurate descriptions of sociological phenomena are “accusatory” when they don’t sufficiently flatter your self-image–a very good indication that you’re part of the problem in way more ways than you realize.
This reply makes me think about the absolute sadness of this situation: female genuinely likes male, but for whatever reason won’t act on it (position, marriage, etc.) Male builds up attraction too much in his mind, starts talking with all of his friends, starts reading way too much into things….because two people liking each other isn’t enough. When ‘male bonding’ makes him feel like a failure (because he didn’t get sex) when really he could have benefitted more from just quietly being a part of a mutual ‘attraction’…he reacts. Everybody loses. He loses a potential future partner or ally…someone who might introduce him to a quality woman, she becomes harassed, the battle continues. Everybody loses. Chicken vs. Egg. And then there’s the 180 degree view, both sexes develop more compassion, and actually try to help each other find love and sex. Allies or enemies?
I love this one so much, so true. It’s sad when a man projects his/or his friend’s past bad experiences onto someone else. And they say women gossip and spin yarns, I’ve witnessed men doing it as much or more. Wishing for a day when everyone can chill out and be real…eternal optimist.
As a guy who actually spins fiber into yarn for knitting and weaving, I hope that your saying “spin yarns” is a slang of some kind. Otherwise, I’m really confused.
To spin yarns is to tell stories (which are likely not true).
Bryan,
To spins yarns is slang for making up a story. Telling a tall tale.
I’ve seen this in action; it’s creepy. Of course, there are people, of both genders, who are just jerks and need to grow up. Liana, I like your comment; optimism gets me through a lot of things.
Thanks.
As a guy who actually spins fiber into yarn for knitting and weaving, I hope that your saying “spin yarns” is a slang of some kind. Otherwise, I’m really confused.
A great illustration. Though I suspect one could insert quite a number of belief/action pairs in the caption spots.