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Clever & cute!

I’m sure you could have thought of one more situation where A is true?

Some families have a lot of screaming and a lot of love; some have no screaming and no love. So in regard to this particular graph: meh.

Usually you are much much better.

So true…

Intersection of A&B = little league tournament

ITT: Screamy parents get pissy because they don’t know how to spank

Well, almost, ’cause when kids are growing up, they scream a lot, and sometimes you scream back.

I’m with Ember on this one. Screaming kids are really annoying, I’d imagine, to their parents. I don’t have my own kids, but my nieces and nephews can get really unbearable. Not to say I love them less necessarily, but I don’t love being AROUND them when they’re screaming.
I didn’t interpret this at all to be parents screaming at their kids. I’m rejecting that one for peace of mind.

Hitting to make it hurt *is* teaching a lesson. “Hitting hurts, and it’s OK to hurt other people.”

Hitting to punish is the same lesson.

Hitting a child to teach them to pick up toys, or to stop hitting or to not play with fire, etc … only teaches them this: “Hitting hurts, and it’s OK to hurt other people. But if I don’t want to be hurt, I’d better [not do | do] that thing when you’re around.”

What about the combination of parents, kids, sports fans and teams at Little League ball games?

uhm. something went wrong with my comment (some weird html-replacement it seems):

there should have been printed:

“{a value on the horizontal axis}” implies “{a value on the vertical axis}”

(”<” and “>” converted the following “a” into a link or something …)

My 5 children are all well behaved, and follow instructions, rules and commands because they understand real world consequences, not because they are afraid of being hit or screamed at or any other form of abuse.

If they don’t play with matches (as in your example) because we’ve shown them how powerful and uncontrollable fire can be. They’ve participated fire safety courses via scouting, school and our own field trips as a family. They’ve seen burned out houses, they’ve watched videos on how fast a fire goes from a match-sized flame to no more house. We’ve done hands on demonstrations on a smaller scale as well.

Real world consequences teach far better than abuse.

Kids staying up too late at night? They’ll be tired the next day. And we don’t cut them any slack, because it is their own fault they’re tired. And we point that out. Real world consequences.

Works for everything from little things like bed time, and big things like playing with matches.

Abusing a child does nothing but make them afraid of you. They only learn that they should behave a certain way when you are around. They do not learn to never or always behave that way.

Spanking is abuse. Screaming is abuse. Withholding affection is abuse. Plain and simple, no exceptions.

Do I ever lose my cool and scream? Yes, it happens, but I always try my hardest to stop the cycle by giving myself a moment to chill, before re-approaching the situation in a more reasonable manner. I also apologize for exhibiting behaviour that is unacceptable. I don’t want them to scream at others (or me) so screaming is a behaviour we discourage.

Every little thing you do to your children is teaching them how they should act. If you hit them, they will hit others. If you scream at them, they will scream at others. If you raise them that abusing children is the way to raise children, they will abuse their children.

Um. First, spanking is used to EMBARRASS a child, not physically punish them. But people don’t know that. It eventually stops working cause the child doesn’t care so the parent does something more painful. In most instances it is moving from an open hand spank, (legal), to a belt/wooden spoon/spatula, (illegal). I would know. I used to get spanked all the time.