Give & take.
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This site is a little project that lets me make fun of some things and sense of others. I use it to think a little more relationally without resorting to doing actual math.
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July 3rd, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Intersection of A & B:
Never propose here
July 3rd, 2009 at 4:51 pm
hmmm….I’m not sure why the low-love end of B would have so much anxiety. Is it meant to be saying that when there’s little love and a lot of anxiety, the anxiety will be reciprocated?
July 3rd, 2009 at 4:56 pm
I’m not so sure about the right end of B. I think about where A & B intersect is where B takes an upward turn.
July 3rd, 2009 at 8:31 pm
I think the “unrequited” and “reciprocated” refer to the love, not the anxiety. I think basically, if you’re loving and not getting loved back, you’re going to get anxiety. If you love and get loved back, anxiety goes down.
Maybe? If that’s what it means, I think a Venn diagram would have expressed this better.
July 3rd, 2009 at 10:04 pm
[...] Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. Being happy means that a decision has been made to look beyond imperfections. Healthy love is a daily task that is contractual–period. It isn’t a game; love is a daily commitment and one that is taken seriously. source [...]
July 3rd, 2009 at 10:24 pm
The reason why B has so much anxiety at the low-love end, I think, is because people start getting anxious when someone loves them but they can’t love them back?
July 4th, 2009 at 2:33 am
The more reciprocated love (the more you love and the more you are loved back) the less the anxiety.
The more unrequited love (the more you love without being loved back) the more the anxiety
July 4th, 2009 at 9:33 am
There’s so much truth in this. I know cuz I’ve been there. If all you do is love someone and they don’t love you back, you run around doing all of these great things for them but never receive any sign that you are doing the right things. Hence, your anxiety levels go through the roof. But man, when you know your feelings are lining up with someone else’s there is a comfort that can’t be rivaled.
July 4th, 2009 at 7:36 pm
I just to be B, now I’m A
El tiempo lo cura todo, dicen
July 5th, 2009 at 10:06 am
Now she tells me.
July 6th, 2009 at 5:26 am
By the time B has reached the far right he/she is primed to leave the relationship.
July 7th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
I agree with Brian to a point. The comfort of NEW love is unparalleled, but most times that comfort goes away and all that anxiety comes screaming back.
But I’m not bitter.
August 21st, 2009 at 7:39 am
Let x = loves(a,b)
Let y = loves(b,a)
Anxiety ~= (1-x)y + x(1-y)