When housemates go bad.

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29 Responses to When housemates go bad.

  1. Ramesh says:

    Jessica — I’m sure you get this more often than you like but its the first time I’m writing in — so here goes :


  2. Terry says:

    True that, which is why I live alone…

    But umm, not to be a stickler, but dishes should probably be on the x axis as that is the independent variable…passive aggression doesn’t lead to dishes “mouldering”, but the other way around…unless there’s a joke here I fail to get

  3. qka says:

    Reminds me of my college housemates back in the 80’s. My solution was what I called “Supply Side Dishwashing”. This was during the Reagan era, after all.

    I was as guilty as the others for leaving dishes in the sink, and to deal with that problem we had a lot of dishes in the house. Unlike my housemates, I wanted to do my part. So before washing dishes, I would go through the cabinets and drawers and find out what was still available clean. Then I would wash all of the dirties of only those items. E.g., if there were still clean bowls, I would wash all the dirty bowls. If there were no clean glasses, i would NOT wash glasses.

    My rationale was that it would force my housemates to wash something so that they could then use it.

    Looking back, yeah, I guess it was passive-aggressive.

  4. Pat says:

    Sooo true…and the passive aggression should definitely by the X-Axis. Passive aggressive roommates (I’m guilty on occasion) will leave dishes in the sink to “wait the other one out” and as a result they become moldy. I.e. a former roommate of mine left a huge set of dishes he used for a party in the sink and took off for christmas break…I packed them up and put them in his bedroom…

  5. Matt says:

    That is the most original FIRST post I have ever seen…

  6. DannyDeranged says:

    Terry – Stop automatically stereotyping dependent axes. I don’t tolerate axisism, and I hope one day that the rest of the world can learn to appreciate unique dependent axes for what they are.

  7. LittleBobbyTables says:

    Fits all of my previous 3 roommate experiences to a T.

  8. Jeane says:

    Ha ha. I had a roommate that once left a pot of mac’n’cheese on the counter for three days. It was getting moldy. I put the pot on her pillow while she was out. When I came back after class she’d cleaned the entire kitchen spotless. I guess I’m pretty passive-aggressive.

  9. Chelsea says:

    I’ve been on both sides of this.

    Amen, I say. Amen.

  10. I thought it was quite clever putting ‘passive aggression’ on the x-axis. And on the flip-side, you could put “tolerance” (or “apathy”) on the x-axis as well. That would described my house.

  11. Kje says:

    Not true. Our dishes are generally washed up every evening.

  12. Bret says:

    So that’s what my wife is up to, eh? Well, I’m on to her little scheme now. TWO can play at that game.

  13. Vaness says:

    The exchnge between Terry and DannyDeranged might be the best comment exchange ever. Just to let you know the geeks who read you Jessica. On a side note, if I weren’t married I might be proposing to DannyDeranged.
    Wonderful graph, as always!

  14. Mel says:

    Wow, that brings back memories of the Great Dirty Dish Wars of 1998.

  15. Mike says:

    How about “you put the toaster back the wrong way. The handle is supposed to be on the left side”.

  16. Dharmamama says:

    But I live alone, and I have a sink full of dirty dishes… guess I’m being passively aggressive to myself.

    AND it’s probably also why I’m alone.

  17. Jamie says:

    Lol. This is exactly what’s going on in my apartment, as we speak!

  18. maximo says:

    passive aggression has a limit. it is not a continous function.

  19. fjaradvax says:

    Terry, Pat etc: I beg to differ – passive aggression and unwashed dishes are surely co-dependent (people are less considerate of surly housemates), although non-washing-up *is* probably causally dominant.

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  21. This doesn’t typically happen with spouses because we can use sex as a weapon.

  22. Work at home mom says:

    HAH! Sexlessness and dirty dishes is a good combo. Apparently the above commenter has a better than average spouse.

    And Maximo–tell that to my husband!

  23. Tina says:

    Definitely don’t exclude the “housemates” who have a marriage certificate!

  24. cbb says:

    If I post this up next to the sink will I take the passive-aggressiveness to a new level?

  25. JJ says:

    “passive aggression has a limit.”

    You obviously don’t know my mom!

  26. Minos says:

    I’ve long said that a dishwasher is essential to harmonious roommate relations.

  27. CarylCake says:

    Oh wow, I’ve been there before. Why are your friends so much less likely to complain to your face when you live together..?

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  29. PG says:

    Maldito Ésquilo!