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While I agree that you’re probably right… I’d have to be in a pretty bad place to stoop to calling home.

No matter how many times my parents told me, “It’s okay to call us if you have any problems” on my way off to college, I really don’t feel like that’s something I would _want_ to do… don’t know why.

…and sometimes that intersection is CAUSED by that call.

You mean like - did you hear who’s sick, and so and so has cancer, and dearies friends neighbors dog died, and …………..

holy crap. totally proven yesterday with my mammy. she’s the best

This isn’t nearly as comforting when your mom’s dead.

Okay to all that, but for me

Mom is mom. What I “want” to do? If it eases something? Solace? My mom is dealing with a serious progressive disease. I see her losing parts of herself and I see her struggle with having to let go of this ability or that independence. She may have a long time in front of her and she may not. All I know now is that my time with her is shorter than I want it to be no matter how much time she has and and that time is getting shorter all the time. That was always true.

So she has changed and I have changed. Screw solace and pride. I want to be able to have her there to call whether it makes makes it better, makes it worse or makes it anything at all. Strictly bottom line at this point.

I’m actually the opposite. My mom never has anything to talk about but how tired and overworked she is…

My Mum can seem to have a screw loose (or several at times). And sometimes she is giving a good impression of living in that intersection. But she is the best!
She is always willing to help/listen. The first person I thought to call when I got stung by a wasp (oddly in my house) was my Mum.
One of my best friends lost him Mum when he was quite young, you can still see the gap in his life now, over half his lifetime later.
So for those of us who are fortunate enough to have Mums that we get along with - treasure them while they’re here.

Erm, not to be Debbie Downer off SNL.. But what do you do when your mom passed a few years ago!?!

Thankyou so much for prompting me to call home. I was miserable, and all my friends were telling me I should feel happy. But my Mum told me she felt just as awful when the same thing happened to her a few years back. That made me feel much less alone.

Sometimes only family shares your weirdnesses. Thank goodness for that. And thank goodness for them.

Unfortunately, the intersection of Gloom, Doom and Insanity IS my mother.

Some days … I would agree with you.

Other days … I simply have to ask, if it IS your mom causing those, then who do you call?

I wonder if it’s much coincidence it was often my dad (separated) and sometimes even my stepmother who I’ve ended up wasting more cash on long distance calls with.

But, to reiterate the first line - not all of it.